Going for What You Want and Other Obvious Choices We Ignore

How One Daily Question Propels You Forward

What if you decided to go after what you really wanted in life?

Seriously.

I’m talking about your life. Your one precious time to conquer all that this world has to offer.

I’ll save you time here.

I’m not going to share anything with you that you don’t already know.

Chances are if you’re reading this that you are very much familiar with goal setting and visualization.

You have probably tried it all.

You might even be a self-proclaimed “Self-Help Junkie” like myself.

If you relate to anything I’ve said, then you know the drill. You understand how a clear vision paired with small actions on a daily basis will move you towards living your dreams into reality.

So then if this is true, and you have already dedicated hours into books, audio programs, TEDtalks, and focus groups, then why are you still not all in 100% on your life?

Could it be that you might not fully believe it?

Or is it that you don’t have a clear vision?

Maybe you’re the type of person whose mind goes from shiny idea to shiny idea, but getting into the nitty-gritty is where you fall short.

The realities are that we live in a world of instant gratification.

We are so spoiled that we can afford to be lazy.

Or can you?

It can be hard to look beyond your current life situations. The life you want to live could feel so detached from your daily experience that the doubt comes in.

You know what I’m talking about.

It’s that ever-pressing voice in your head telling you lies like

• You can’t afford that
• You’re not smart enough
• You don’t know enough
• You’re too old, young, ugly, tall, short, fat, thin

Etcetera Etcetera. You fill in the blank here. You know that monster.

And here’s the thing. No matter how much you learn, grow, change, conform, and mold to please this monster it is not going to go away!

There is always something in the way.

Notice I didn’t say someone.

Well, not exactly true. You are the only someone in your way.

• Not your parents
• Not your boss
• Not your husband/ wife
• Not your family
• Not your friends
• Not your neighbors
• Not “Them”

YOU!

Isn’t that wonderful!

And horrible.

And scary.

Envisioning Your Life

You can decide, like for realz, to go after what you want right now AND make it happen.

You have that ability inside you right now.

Any life you want — any at all — you can materialize

BUT….

You must put in the work first.

Which means you have to believe it’s yours before it’s yours.

Most people get so comfortable in their daily experience that yeah they’d like to travel more, but then they’d have to find a new job that paid better or allowed for time off.

Constantly looking for excuses in their way instead of focusing on what they’re after.

How about you?

Ever find yourself putting up walls before you’ve even given a dream a chance?

Why is that? Comfort? Laziness? Self-Doubt?

Most likely a combo of a couple learned behaviors. Behaviors that can be changed with a little effort on a daily basis.

But are you willing to put in the work?

Start Where You Are

Are you ready to look seriously at your present circumstances? You better be. The only time to make changes towards living the life of your dreams is NOW.

In any given moment you have the luxury of asking yourself,

“Is this thought or action moving me closer to my goals?”

Super easy right?

Wrong!

It takes work.

But just a little. Applied over and over again.

First, you need to catch yourself in the moment. Multiple times throughout your day. Just keep asking the question.

Is this thought or action moving me closer to my ideal life?

The Struggle to be Happy

If you’re anything like me, when your mind starts itself on a negative downward spiral of self-deprecated thoughts it’s hard to jump off. Almost as though you are addicted to the story.

Shocker! YOU ARE.

When you first start asking yourself this question halfway through the revenge story about your ex, you will be very tempted to reply to yourself like, “yeah yeah, this is not healthy, but let me finish playing it out first.”

Um…..Okay. You do you, but that mental rehearsal isn’t going to do anything for your future life, or make your ex feel anything at all.

It will however keep you stuck in the exact path you are on.

Like I said at the top. Nothing new here. Just a reminder. Because if you are on the path towards living your dream life, or you want to be, it is possible for you.

You only need to decide that your one precious life is worth it. And then begin where you are.

Begin in the moment. Tomorrow will never be here. Things will never be perfect.

The time will never be right. You won’t get better at playing guitar by sitting around and talking about playing guitar. Pick that bad boy up and strum.

You will not be surrounded by the things you love until you start making those things a priority.

Yes, this means setting down the iPhone game you’re currently busting through and using those 15 minutes to meditate, write, crochet, or whatever it is you desire on your path of life.

I know you can do it. Switch your mindset. Know that people want you to succeed.

Know that when you have the courage to follow your path that it gives others the strength to follow their path.

You are enough, and you get to decide what the story of your life will be.

Use this one question multiple times a day.

Is this Action / Thought / Behavior moving me towards the life of my dreams?

Believe you can and you will.